How to Be Happy: 7 Habits of Happy Women
Where does happiness begin? Is it the good fortune of being born in "that" country or "that" family? Is it achieving some important goal? Or is it the ability to be happy regardless of where you live, your family status, or the zeros in your bank account?
Psychologists say that happiness is an inner state that we can create every day. It’s enough to form the right habits - the very habits that will lead you to happiness without conditions, drastic changes, or waiting for the perfect moment.
These habits are available to each of us. Try them and see for yourself.
1. Take Responsibility for Your Life
What about lightness, romance and that famous "I don't want to decide anything - I'm a girl and I want a dress and sandals"?
The paradox is that this very lightness and femininity come to you the moment you can give them all to yourself. Accepting gifts from the world is wonderful, but there is a big difference between receiving from a state of abundance, when you are filled with sincere gratitude, or agonizing over "when will it be?" when you are in a state of scarcity.
And it is not only about material goods. There are different kinds of deficits. If you are in desperate need of attention, care or someone who will come to solve all your problems for you, your happiness will depend solely on external circumstances.
Happy women do not put their lives on hold, do not waste years waiting for fairy-tale princes and do not shift the responsibility for everything that happens to them to other people. They know that the key to their happiness is in their hands.
Responsibility begins with a full acceptance of yourself, your peculiarities, strengths and weaknesses, successes and mistakes, and the realization that you are responsible for your life, and therefore you can control it.
2. Gratitude as a Way of Thinking
Happy people live in the same world as unhappy people. True, there is one difference: where an unhappy person will see a reason for suffering, a happy person will see an opportunity to learn something useful.
"Everything that happens around you is not happening to you, but for you." Read that again. Happy women do not live in the position of a victim, waiting for the next blow of fate. They simply move forward, seeing everything in their path as an opportunity for growth.
Gratitude is a powerful psychological tool. When you are grateful for what you already have and what is happening to you, you stop living in the "not enough" mode. You don't have to wait for the perfect moment to be satisfied with your life - just try to notice the good things right now: in others, in events, in yourself.
Start a gratitude journal and every night write down at least three things you can be grateful for that day.
3. Self-Care and Personal Boundaries
Happiness is impossible without being in touch with ourselves. Our physical body is directly connected to our emotional state. Find your own way to bring it joy - dancing, yoga, active walks. Make sure you get quality sleep. Establish a healthy eating regimen.
Don't torture yourself with strict diets and rigorous exercise - don't turn it into a punishment. Act out of love and acceptance of yourself. Try my cool bot with regular diet and exercise recommendations according to the phases of your menstrual cycle to live in harmony with your nature.
Taking care of yourself is also taking care of your mental health. Don't be afraid to say no to everything that devastates you. Don't be afraid to say no, even if everyone expects you to say yes. Happy women know how to protect their boundaries, and this is also about self-care, not selfishness. Learn to say no without making excuses or feeling guilty. Being honest with yourself and others is another habit of happy women.
4. Get Away from Where You Feel Bad
If any attempts to build personal boundaries turn into a war zone, it's worth wondering if that's where you want to be.
You don't have to put up with a boss's rudeness, or a partner's indifference, or a friend you can never rely on. If you feel unimportant, unneeded, used - just leave.
Don't forget, living a life of constant tension and trying to earn good treatment is not only uncomfortable, it's also unsafe for your health. Damaged self-esteem, constant anxiety, and chronic stress are what you're at risk for if you constantly settle for less. Take a free anxiety test, identify its causes, and build a relationship with it here, on the site in Private Place, to determine if you're at risk, and be ready to make decisions.
Your life is your rules. Don't compromise where you are not willing to make at least a minimal step forward. You are entitled to respect, recognition and support.
A happy woman will never cling to a toxic environment because she knows: something truly worthy will always come to fill the vacated space.
5. Do What Fills You Up
Truly happy people rarely wonder if they are happy. Most of them are so busy and passionate about what they are doing in life that they simply don't have time for these reflections.
One of the most useful habits of a happy woman is to constantly ask herself: "What do I want?". Not "what is necessary", not "what is right", but what the soul really wants. Since childhood we are taught to be compliant, to conform, and to please. But the way to real happiness is to return to yourself. A woman who knows how to hear her inner voice does not get lost in other people's scenarios.
Do you want to be happy? Here's the easiest recipe - keep busy doing what you enjoy doing. Learn a new profession, study something you've been interested in for a long time, schedule regular time for a hobby, create a club of like-minded people, or organize a volunteer project - in short, do something that gives you goosebumps.
There is always time and opportunity if you want it. And with them will come the feeling of a life filled with meaning - what else is needed for true happiness!
6. Know How to Let Go and Forgive
A happy woman doesn't drag around old resentments, guilt or expectations. She knows how to live through the pain, learn a lesson and move on. She knows that the inner weight prevents her from moving forward and consciously makes room for a new life.
Forgiveness for her is not about weakness and forgiveness, but about self-care. It's a decision, "I choose not to carry this around with me." It's like cleaning the house - you're just keeping your inner space clean. Even if it's been messed up before.
If you often go back to the past, try asking yourself the question: "Why am I holding on to this? What do I need to let go?"
Sometimes writing practices help - write a letter to the person who hurt you. Not to send it, but to let yourself talk, to put your feelings on paper and thus remove or weaken their influence on you. Do yourself a favor - free yourself from the poison of resentment, because it poisons your life for you, not for your abusers.
7. Stop Being Perfect
A happy woman has another very useful skill - telling herself, "I am good enough." Without self-criticism, perfectionism and the eternal race for "I can do better".
Striving to be perfect or better than others is not about healthy ambition, as is sometimes assumed. It is a typical consequence of unstable self-esteem, when one's own value is perceived only through the prism of comparisons with others. By the way, here is a useful article from experts on how a woman can raise and strengthen her self-esteem.
A happy woman does not compete with anyone. She knows that she has her own way, as unique and beautiful as she is. She respects her boundaries and doesn't push herself. She chooses to be alive and real, even if she is imperfect.
Next time you feel like devaluing yourself and your successes against someone else, ask yourself, "What am I already doing well? What am I good at? What is my strength?" And make it your habit.
How to Start on the Path to a Happy Self
Motivation can fade, emotions can change, and habits are things that run on autopilot, regardless of your mood or circumstances.
When you get into the habit of choosing yourself, hearing yourself, and supporting yourself every day, life starts to unfold differently After a while you will start to notice that you are less and less dependent on the approval of others, on events around you’ll become more and more trusting and reliant on yourself.
Pick one habit to start and start implementing it. The key to success is consistency. Stick with it for at least 21 days and you'll definitely notice a change - in your mood, thoughts, decisions and actions. Then you can add the next one. Take your time and don't demand instant results from yourself. Treat yourself with honesty and care - as truly happy women do.
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