In Search for Balance and Harmony

«To understand what balance is you should walk over a precipice on a rope»

Dmytro Solo

Self-realization, self-development, ideas of healthy egoism have burst into the woman’s world with the speed of sound. Things which were not thought of several decades ago, have become our tangible reality today.

A modern woman does not agree to devote her life to creating a cozy domestic life, cooking tasty food, serving the family. On the other hand, not only work, interesting projects and her own successes make women happy. 

What to do and how to live? 

Find a balance – most will answer. 

Search for a balance – I shall clarify. 

Why to search? It is impossible to gain balance once for a lifetime. Each new day, project, victory  and defeat will import other components of the balance. Therefore, it turns out, there is no perfect balance – there is a way, a search for balance. Search for this notorious, but so desired balance will full your life with satisfaction and harmony, joy and happiness, creative decisions and unexpected turns. 

What helps on the way of searching for balance: 

1.Values, priorities, beliefs. If your main value is a family it is better to accept immediately that building your own business will be difficult and fraught with serious conflicts. On the other hand, your self-realization not conflicting with your family lifestyle will be supported by all family members. If your priority is a career make sure that your partner, family members accept such state of things and give you a freedom of action without any remorse and guilt. Important! You are not the only one who should be aware of your values and priorities. Therefore, they need to be spoken, and you should receive confirmation that they are accepted.  

2.View. What do I want to gain in 1/5/10 years? Which picture does your imagination draw? What has its place there? Which values have led you there? Answers to these questions will help to separate the husk and to plant seeds of awareness into the thoughts, behavior, decisions. 

3. Rules. Where there are rules, there are order and sense of security. Rules should be divided into personal, family, and work.

Personal rules – those accepted for yourself. Those ones which you will use while making decisions, in difficult moral situations, when it is not clear what to do. If you are ill, you do not work. You take treatments. Then you will not have problems to reschedule a meeting for the sake of visit to a doctor or having some rest.

Family rules – those which act inside the family and for all family members. Therefore, they are accepted not single-handedly, but are discussed together. Such rules are important for everyone in the family space to feel needed, appreciated, loved. And safe. If mom is working, she should not be disturbed. If mom is really needed, you should come up with a key word or action. It may be “I need help”, “SOS”, “5 minutes”, or making some fragrant tea.

Work rules – those which regard directly to the work processes. Such rules should be known by all who are involved in these processes – employees, colleagues, customers. You do not answer the messages after 22.00. Or you pre-accept the employees’ proposals in writing.

Such rules existence helps to keep balance in family, work and with yourself. If you don’t know what to do, follow the rules.

The rules will change and improve. For their task is to make life easier.

Each successful woman has her own secrets of search for balance. Therefore, search for your own equilibrium points, balance with decisions, enjoy the way. You will even manage to find and live some time in balance and harmony. And then again – new way, challenges, decisions. But I know for sure, you will nail it!

Dear women, do not give up your dreams and desires for the sake of balance of the only one side. Search for the ways, possibilities which will help to realize them. Because a happy woman is not the one who has gained harmony, but the one who realizes her dreams balancing with all spheres of life.

Trust me, it is possible!